The Growth

The idea of growth can be romanticised, to shift, to change, to become. You listen to people speak about their growth, that it was the best thing that ever happened to them, that it helped them shed the layers of the person they used to be. But that is the point, growth involves pain, discomfort, loss, a shedding. It involves grieving the people and the life you once had in order to replace it with something better, easier, more aligned to who you are now.

But this is not easy. It is not easy to let go of people that no longer serve you, no fight, no disagreement but just out of alignment, how can one even explain that. It hurts even more when there is no fight on their side, they let you go easily, making you question why you stayed in the first place. 

Growth and change happens with discomfort, with pain, with letting go. This process can be difficult, especially when you keep returning to the person you were because it feels more comfortable, coming back to the thoughts you have always had because of the way your brain has been programmed for so long. It takes time, perceiverence and courage to change your mind, your thoughts, your being. 

To grow is to shed, to feel, to become. To let go of the people that may have always been there, but not in the way they should have been. It could be the family, friendships, career that at one time could have been everything.

It takes so much more than we think. Learning this, that true growth takes time and starting over and over again. Getting back up again when you fall. That sometimes true growth may mean falling all the way down only to rise up again, rise up to become a person, better than you could have ever imagined.  ever have been before.